Take Responsibility of Your Triggers

How are TRIGGERS defined?

Triggers can be defined in the mental health context as “a stimulus that elicits a reaction”. 

Who are responsible for those triggers?

I never really paid attention to things that would “trigger me”. Showing repetitive behavior I never reconsider or recognized to be something that triggered me to have such behavior.

When something traumatic happens to you and you want to never visualize it again you put up a mental memory block. 

I started to recognize my triggers while living in Georgia my wife and I were watching an episode of Law and Order SVU, the little girl had been molested most of her childhood and then turned into a promiscuous woman. Well, that made me break down completely-not realizing that was a TRIGGER- my wife asked what’s wrong, I continued to cry and break down, but I finally told her I was or I am that girl. Me stating that she was in tune with what happened to me-I explained I had me getting molested and touched on since the age of 5 years old until the age 13, by certain family members whom was supposed to protect me. I had to gather myself because I had never told anyone in my life that, when I shared that it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I never told my mother/father/sister/brothers/auntie because of fear something would happen to me or no one would not believe me. The thought of I did something wrong or that person saying if you tell they wont believe you. When I say at the age of 37 and going head on with your fears and talking with your family to get those moments of my chest and for them to embrace me meant a lot. 

Let me be the one to tell you dealing with TRIGGERS/TRAUMA can be a long road but it does get easier and better; with therapy and health ways to maintain those triggers.

I’m not saying that you won’t have things that will trigger you but what will you do in that moment to take on the responsibility to deal with that situation/person/word/action that just triggered you. Learn what works for you- mediation/count to 10/take deep breaths/tale up yoga. Whatever works for you use those techniques, these techniques will allow you to bring awareness to the internal physiological mechanisms of your body.

Learning that you and only you are responsible for what is being poured into you is a big step to being a better version of yourself.

What are your TRIGGERS?

Learn what your Triggers are and address them FACE to FACE.

Embrace your triggers; use them to redirect yourself and make a better version of yourself!!!

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