Beyond Destiny: She.Me.Her at 40

     I believe destiny can be defined as the concept that can continue to change with your own understanding of your own path or spiritual journey. Destiny can be defined in numerous ways which I think is a wonderful thing because the way I may view destiny can be complete different for someone else.  As human beings we look to be the best versions of ourselves but sometimes we don't know what that mean or what it look like. Living in a world that wants insist gratification can become overwhelming; but that  doesn't mean quit. Sometimes the rode to building your own destiny can come with hurdles and setbacks which may cause some self doubt; but using that self doubt to fuel the fire to keep going and reach the destiny of your desire.  Knowing that you are in charge of your own destiny and that you can create was really big for me because growing up it was always go to school, get a degree and get a good paying job to take care of my family. Well, let me tel...

  If you have never experienced growing up in a domestic household then let be the one to tell you those memories haunt you into adulthood. Reaching the age of 40 I dig deeper into my inner child and when I say it’s a roller coaster of emotions. At a young age I heard lot going on in our household that my big sister and big brother (stepbrother) tried to protect me from. We lived in a household where there was domestic violence going; at that time I’m not sure what it was called but it scared the heck out of me because my mother was getting her ass beat. It would be arguing, yelling, glass throwing, my mama running screaming stop, walls being punched because my daddy (my stepfather) missed my mama face. I would be so scared that I would get in the bed with my sister and cry and she would cover my ears and rock me to sleep. My sister and I are 10 yrs apart so imagine being a little girl yourself and making sure your little sister is protected.    I could remember us (my ma...

Heyyyy it's your girl LaTris.   I have a question; Do you need a vacation?  Whether it's with a group, a friend or two or simply by yourself, how often do you get to travel? Getting a chance to travel is therapeutic and refreshing for your mental health. As I talked with different women from all walks of life for an example: a single mother, a married woman with children, and a business professional woman with no children; yes, they all have different dynamics of life but they all had one thing in common which is preserving their mental health. They all view that in-order to maintain balance in their life rather traveling near or far, traveling is much needed to refocus, reset and recharge themselves mentally.  Knowing that your environment and everyday routine has a huge impact on your overall mental health. As a black woman or any woman for that matter the consent hustle and bustle is nonstop. If it's from not wanting to leave the family or you just simply don't ha...

  What is your favorite wine?  How do you W.I.N.E down at the end of the day? Life can be so overwhelming sometimes it makes you want break down and cry. I am a wife, a mother, a caregiver for my mother who has dementia; let me say it’s a hard job and at times I don’t know if I am capable of doing it. I had took a step back from working in corporate America in the pharmaceutical industry to care for my mother. When I say, I had to learn of ways to take time for myself in-order to be there wholeheartedly for my family. I will share some of those here with you; you may use the ways I have shared or create your own that works and best fits you. Let me tell you a bubble bath, music, a glass of wine  and the bottle next to the is one of my favorite ways to relax after a long day. No matter what age or stage you are in your life, you deserve that night to yourself. We are constantly on the move and sometimes forget about yourself and what we need to keep going. Well, I’m here t...

 Good morning…. ☀️  Let me tell you how I just attempted to try to drive, yesss I know I’m in my 4th week of recovery but I was trying to give my wife a break.. Well, that was a FAILED attempt 🥴  I see why they say no driving for 6 weeks, because the swinging of that recovering leg is still sensitive. Let me tell you, my wife watched me attempt getting in the driver seat and everything 😝, this lady just watched and said this why they said 6 weeks. Well, I’m here to tell you listen to the damn doctor instructions. If you have had or will have surgery, follow the damn exercises and doctor orders.  I am one who likes to move around and this recovery time has been a long process for me so something as simple is driving to drop the kids off at camp is a no go. I’m going to sit my ass down and trust the process. I know I’m hardheaded as the old folks say but if you don’t try you don’t know.  What have you been told not to do but tried anyway? Was it a failed attempt...

Coming into different perspectives in my life!! Letting go is scary, but allowing yourself to GROW is GREAT!!! Well let’s pick it back up, wondering when I started being interested in women 🤔… That’s for me to know and you to find out!!! 😝 Naw I’ll tell you a little bit…. Well, I didn’t experience to much as a teenager but it started my freshman year in college when I became friends with a chick who dated women and men. She was cool and she showed me even more game than I had already knew. The more we hung out the more I liked her even more wasn’t sure what the feeling was and not trying to show it to her. This one night we was getting ready to go out and she asked me had I ever been with a chick before, I stated “Naw” I didn’t want to tell her or anyone else for that matter that my cousin (female) use to touch on me or I just dry hump a chick as a teenager. She was like ok, well let me show you something and it went from there. Wasn’t sure how to respond afterwards so we, finish get...